Why do we have to be so secretive when we join the lifestyle?

Well that’s because of the misconceptions that people have when they hear the word swingers. What they don’t know is that over 15 million Americans are or have tried swinging and have attended a swing party/club. Attending a swing party or club does not mean you have to or want to swap sexual partners. The lifestyle is about being”sexually open minded”. Those who are not in the lifestyle are referred to as vanilla. Meaning they are bland or boring and tend to be very sexually closed minded. Lifestyle couples generally talk about sex openly and share their fantasies freely with others without being judged. Couples that you find at swinger clubs and on swinger social networking websites may have never played with another partner/couple but enjoy the socialization with other open minded adults.